The Three Versions of Ourselves: Parenthood, Coaching, and Letting Go
When they miss a shot, I think and analyze. When they don't get enough playtime, I worry and strategize. When they face injustice — biased referees, unfair team dynamics, hidden agendas — I don't just feel it. I live it.
There are three versions of ourselves that seem to come alive when we watch our children grow, compete, and find their place in the world.
The Parent, the Coach and the Independent Observer.
Now I am mentioning the word 'coach', even though officially I'm not one (my wife is 😄). But this year, as we see both our children focusing more and more on sports, supporting them daily, traveling with them to events, cheering (the soft version), and sometimes even cursing, we realize we carry all the characteristics of a good coach — or maybe a very bad one.
Going back to my main subject and the three roles, versions of ourselves. Each carries its own voice, its own instincts. Each wants the best for our children — but each approaches it differently. And sometimes, in the beautiful chaos of life, these versions collide, pulling us between protection, guidance, and detachment.
